Wednesday, November 4, 2009

"the talk"

Oh my...my oldest babies are becoming little ladies. Tonight we had "the talk." Not the birds and bees just yet, but a long beautiful conversation about the changes they can expect their bodies to be making over the next couple years. Granted, they're just nearing 10, so they've got time. But they're in middle school now, and have been hearing mumblings of things from friends, and older girls at school about "periods" and various things. A little of which was starting to frighten them a bit. I thought it might be best to lay things out on the table now, and encourage them to ask questions as things come up.
I prayed about it first, which certainly helped. The Holy Spirit was my counsel as the three of us stayed up late to talk about the awesome miracle of a woman's body, created to carry life into the world. We actually cried together as we talked about our Blessed Mother carrying Jesus in her womb, about the dignity of women and how we need to respect our bodies. They asked so many wonderful questions...some I hadn't even thought would come up. Gosh, they seemed so mature taking it all in. And as they got up to head to bed, and gave me the usual kiss goodnight, I got a little choked up again. Gone are the baby girls that would lay on either side of my lap as I'd feed them their bottles each night. They're maturing; becoming little women. Oh my. I ask God's special graces to carry me through this next phase of life.

4 comments:

Beth said...

Oh, I know how you feel...kudos to you for handling it so well! Sometimes they do seem to grow up right in front of our eyes, don't they? Makes me cry a little bit every time too.

Stacy said...

Know exactly how you feel.....we went through the same thing last year with our daughter after she came home from 4-H camp. She heard bits and pieces of info also in her cabin full of girls. Couldn't believe some of the things she had heard! She was a little scared as well, so we had a nice conversation on the drive home about "changes" as well. Steve was glad that he didn't have a part in this conversation. Although, I told him he will have to have "the talk" with his son when that time comes.

Shelli said...

I had the conversation with my daughter around the 5th grade or so only to learn she had "heard it all" from a cousin in 3rd grade. A friend recommended a great book called "The Wonderful Way Babies are Made". There is a simple side (left page) and more detailed page (right side) for each pictures. Also got Theology of the Body where one side is boys and one side is girls. I keep trying to have conversations about chastity and virginity with the 8th grader but it's a whole lot of eye rolling. I will keep trying though!

jamie said...

thanks for the book suggestions Shelli. I may have to check them out on my annual day-after-thanksgiving shopping trip. We always manage a Barnes & Noble stop to have coffee and relax a bit. I now have several good reads on my "to check out" list.